Dealing With Your Own Grief

Your Grief — Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One

  • Be involved in planning the funeral service.

  • Some cultures, such as the Chinese, Mexican, and Irish encourage keening, or loud wailing.

  • Keep in contact with friends.

  • Don’t ignore your feelings. Talk about how you feel with friends and family.

  • Avoid spending a lot of time with friends who are also in a grieving period. This can lead to deeper depression.

  • Listen to music. This will help you access your feelings.

  • Spend time outdoors.

  • If you have a hobby spend some extra time doing it.

  • Exercise is important because it causes metabolic changes that can help relieve sadness.

  • Avoid drinking or drug use to escape your emotions.

  • If your emotions seem out of control you, don’t hesitate to talk to a therapist. Many people need help adjusting to the loss of a loved one.

  • Recognize that you’re not a victim. Everyone has a right to grieve over a loss — however minor or significant. Feeling that your loss — whatever it may be — is more significant than others’ losses keeps you stuck and prevents you from enjoying new, happier moments.

  • To overcome grief ask, “How can I make a difference?” rather than “Why did this happen to me.” It is very difficult to deal with the loss of a loved one. The grieving period is painful. However, keep in mind that it’s normal to feel pain, and that, given time, it will subside.

See related topics:

Good Grief
Stages of Grief
Helping Others
Death of an Infant
Death of a Child
Accidental Death
Terminal Illness
Supporting Children
Death of a Spouse
Death of an Elderly Spouse
Suicide