Getting Others Involved in Writing a Eulogy

When a loved one dies, it is important to recognize and acknowledge the importance of the people that were in his or her life. Therefore, a life cannot be fully remembered or honored without including those people in the eulogy.

The deceased’s family and friends can be utilized in every facet of the eulogy – from the preparation to the delivery. Here are some examples of how you can include them:

  • It is a common practice to brainstorm elements that are to be included in a eulogy. Seek out others that were close to the deceased in this process. They will have ideas from a perspective that you aren’t privy to.
  • Gather photos, memories, and stories from family and friends. They will have interesting pieces to contribute. It is also therapeutic to share those kinds of memories with others that are grieving.
  • Allow others to have input in choosing the theme of the eulogy. For example, if they have a lot of historical contributions regarding the deceased, it could steer you into more of a biographical theme.
  • Once you have pieced together a good and heartfelt eulogy, draw on others to help you refine and polish it. Invite one or two of the loved ones to listen to your eulogy as you practice. They can help you feel confident about its appropriateness and help you infuse some light-hearted moments.
  • Seek out someone you can trust to be a backup in case you cannot deliver the eulogy yourself. Illness or another emergency could arise to make it impossible for you to give it. It is not out of the realm of possibility that the emotion of the occasion could prevent you from finishing the eulogy once you start. A backup can be an insurance policy that will put you at ease.
  • Finally, acknowledge the people that were closest to the deceased in the eulogy. The spouse and the children should be acknowledged. It is comforting to them to realize that everyone understands what a big part they were to the departed’s life. Parents, siblings, and other close friends can also be mentioned, if applicable.

A eulogy is about a life celebrated and honored. Without family and friends, it is impossible to fully accomplish this. When a group of loved ones are included in the eulogy process, it ensures that it will be fulfilling and heartfelt.

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