Creating a Celebration of Life

When someone dies we want the chance to say goodbye, honor their memory, and look for meaning in the death. For most of history, we have turned to funerals to serve these purposes. And, without a doubt, holding a ceremony to memorialize someone we have lost holds an important place in the process of handling grief.

While the need to mourn hasn’t changed, the ceremonies we use to help us through the process has. For example, as the use of cremation has increased, holding a memorial service rather than a traditional funeral has become popular. The difference being, during a funeral the body is present while at a memorial service it is not. Memorial services also provide the flexibility our diverse, more mobile society requires since they are not tied to a specific time or place.

But for many people, traditional funeral rituals have become too impersonal. And so we have seen the rise of “The Celebration of Life.”


A Celebration of Life is a ceremony that is held either in concert with a traditional funeral or memorial service or instead of a traditional service as a stand-alone event.

What makes a Celebration of Life different is the level of personalization and tone. A Celebration of Life is not a somber affair. Instead, we find lots of laughter and storytelling. The focus is not on the death of the person, but on the joy that the person brought to others. 


Planning a Celebration of Life is much like planning any other gathering that commemorates a life event. You’ll need to decide on the specifics (time, place, etc.), how you will get the word out and what elements you would like to incorporate. If your situation doesn’t offer the time or resources to undertake such an effort, you can take advantage of the services offered by a Celebrant.

What is a Celebrant: These professionals work with families to design a service that is customized to their cultural, religious, and spiritual needs. They are trained to help arrange both secular and non-secular celebrations. Celebrant services are not limited to Celebrations of Life. They often work with people planning a traditional funeral or memorial services as well. Many celebrants are qualified to take on the role of officiant as well as helping to plan the service. Learn more about using celebrants.


  1. Choose the type of service:

    Will this be a funeral or a memorial service? Will it be stand-alone or part of a more traditional funeral? What would you like the tone to be?

  2. Set a budget:

    While worrying about the cost may seem inappropriate, it is important that you know how much you can reasonably afford. Having an idea of what your financial constraints are can help you narrow down your choices for the details of the celebration such as the type of food and the venue.

  3. Estimate how many people will attend:

    It may be difficult to determine an exact headcount, but an estimate of the number of people you think will attend is important for selecting the right sized venue and refreshments, if you plan to offer them.

  4. Choose a location, date, and time:

    When designing a Celebration of Life you are not limited in your choice of venue. You can certainly take advantage of the space available at a funeral home but you can also choose to have your event at your home, at a local park, or at some location that held meaning for the person you are honoring. Don’t forget to consider unconventional locations as well as the tried and true. For example, if the deceased was a film lover you consider renting a theater for your celebration.

  5. Decide if you would like to use a Celebrant: 

    For many people, the idea of planning a large event can be overwhelming. In these cases, a Celebrant can help take the pressure off by working through the details with you. If you would like to be totally hands-off, that’s ok. If you would like to handle just a certain segment of the Celebration, your Celebrant can work with you in that area as well.

  6. Select who you would like to speak:

    You can ask specific people to share their thoughts or invite anyone who would like to offer an anecdote to speak. You should give them guidance on the type of story they would share. You can also ask the Celebrant to speak on your behalf.

  7. Determine activities you would like to include:

    The beauty of a celebration of life is that you can customize your ceremony however you’d like.  Think about the way your loved one preferred to spend his or her time. A sky lantern release, a group motorcycle ride, a book drive, or a group walk are all examples of the type of activities that are common. The important thing is that the activity is an appropriate tribute to your loved one.

  8. Decide on what type of refreshments you would like to have:

    Your venue, budget, and other constraints can help you decide on the type of refreshments you serve. You are not expected to provide a full meal unless that is something you would really like to do. In any case, food and drink are not required.

  9. Choose ways to personalize the event: 

    You have unlimited choices when it comes to personalizing your event. Many people create a tribute movie or slide show and display photos around the venue. Your choice of music and readings can also be highly personal. If the deceased was a collector, for example, you might decide to display some of his or her items on a special table. Would a theme be appropriate? If your loved one was fond of a particular musical artist, film, or set of characters you might request that attendees dress in costume. Remember, there are no rules.

  10. Set your order of events:

    Many people choose to include structured elements such as readings and music followed by some type of group activity and then a reception. There is no right or wrong way to do it, only what is best for you and your loved ones.

  11. Choose how you will decorate the venue:

    If you are having your celebration at an outdoor location such as on the beach or at a park, it may not be necessary to have decorations at all. This is entirely up to you.

  12. Determine how you will get the word out:

    If the Celebration of Life takes place as part of a traditional funeral or memorial service, include this in the obituary and social media details. You can also ask others to spread the word to others who would like to pay their respects. If you are having a celebration that is separate from traditional services, stand-alone, or will take place sometime in the future, you may want to take the added step of calling or writing a note to those who may not be active online. Invitations are not normally sent for funerals, but it is perfectly acceptable to personally invite people to a Celebration of Life if you would like to. Keep in mind that people who do not receive a formal invitation may still want to attend.

You do not have to hold your Celebration of Life in a funeral home. It doesn’t have to be religious or conform to any particular rules or guidelines. Your celebration can be as unique as the person you are honoring. It is entirely up to you to decide what is suitable for your ceremony. You are free to include only those components that your loved one would approve of or that you and your family are comfortable with. Ceremony planning can seem overwhelming. Just take it step-by-step. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. In no time at all, you will create an event that is the perfect final sendoff to celebrate an extraordinary life.

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